In this society far too many of us spend far too much of our time criticizing and complaining….and as a result, so many people and relationships are suffering from alienation, indifference, and even hostility.

And at the heart of this suffering is a lack of affirmation, appreciation, or even acknowledgement.

Many of us have been taught that affirmation is a humanistic, self-esteem, ego-boosting tool for manipulating others.

Yet appropriate affirmation motivates the other person, without fueling pride…and encourages with words that are thoughtful, intentional, and respectful.

Appropriate affirmation recognize Christ-like characteristics in others, as well as the work that God has done and is doing in the lives of the people around us.

We must always make sure to keep God at the center of our affirmations by following the biblical pattern of saying, “I thank God for you…” 

Affirming the work that God has done and is doing in others honors God so that the person is encouraged and God gets the glory.  

    Scriptures that demonstrate the purpose of building each other up include…..

    1.  Hebrews 10:24…

     2.  Romans 15:2 
    3.  1 Peter 3:9

    Forty percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but only about eight percent actually reach their goals. 
    You can spend way too much time analyzing everything, thinking about getting started online, reading every article and book in sight, and never getting anything done…but with all the available resources out there, you will probably still be trying to figure out where to start….and simply writing that New Hear’s resolution on a new list of resolutions in December…

    • “Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work.” — Stephen King

    Even though you don’t have the perfect plan and are not sure exactly how it’s going to work out, the best way to learn is by doing….

    Regardless of the goal that you have set, there are many who, what, when, where, how, and why questions that you might ask yourself including…

    1.  WHO…Next talk to other people about your goals. This will make you feel both more excited and more committed.

    • Who benefits the most from me achieving this goal?
    • Who can help me achieve it? Who else is or should be involved?
    • Who else believes in me and my ability to reach this goal?
    • Who will support me? Who probably won’t support me? 

    2.  WHAT…First of all, write down specific goals that you want to achieve. Keep your list of goals in front of you. Frame them if you want.

    • What is my biggest passion and dream in life? What one wildly bold goal would I like to accomplish that would truly inspire me to get up each morning?
    • What do I want to accomplish? What will success look like?
    • What is the probability of ever reaching this goal?
    • What is the biggest obstacle hindering me from achieving my goals? 
    • What skills, tools, and resources do I need to acquire or master?
    • What is my next step? 

    Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow’s reality.” — Malala Yousafzai

    3.  WHEN…Focus on immediate tasks…only your tasks for today and the week ahead of you…so that you do not get discouraged or overwhelmed. Now, perhaps the most important task—get organized. Break larger goals into smaller tasks. Set up a plan or schedule. Break down the year into months, and then create specific action steps for each week. 

    • When can I find the time to do whatever it takes to reach this goal?
    • When would be a realistic time for me to have reached this goal?
    • When will there be enough information to know if and when I should set new goals?
    • When will I start working toward this goal?


    4.  WHERE

    • Where do I want to be this time next year?
    • Where will I acquire the necessary knowledge?
    • Where will my goal be accomplished? 
    • Where have I written my “chosen frozen” goals down so that they can become something tangible to focus on, evaluate, and refine on a regular basis?

    . “Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” — Golda Meir

    5.  HOW…Choose appropriate milestones and benchmarks for your particular goal. Reward yourself whenever you reach a milestone or benchmark.

    • How will I benefit from reaching this goal? 
    • How will I stay focused during the process? 
    • How will the business be different one year from now?
    • How will this goal be achieved?
    • How does this deadline influence your daily activities?
    • How should I best spend my time, instead wasting time on unrelated, unimportant, non-strategic activities?


     “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” — Winston Churchill

    6.  WHY… Schedule a weekly check in with yourself. Evaluate what’s working and what’s not. Remind yourself why you set these goals in the first place. 

    • Why am I going to do this in the first place?
    • Why am I willing to invest time, energy, and money in doing this? 
    • Why is achieving this goal so important to me? 
    • Why is reaching this goal important? 


    My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive, and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style.”— Maya Angelou